Perfect Blowjob course for girls doing it the first time. Many men consider sucking to be an essential part of foreplay. Or as a delicious snack. Many women, on the other hand, do not like giving head so much. However, oral sex can be the perfect prelude to an unrestrained lovemaking. And it does not have to be annoying, as long as you master the right tricks to bring him into ecstasy and you can also get carried away in the feeling of pleasure.
The art of a good blow job (just synonymous: fellatio session) lies in correctly touching the man’s most sensitive places, with the right structure and at the right pace. Of course, the penis is its sex organ, one sensitive zone and anatomically a lot less complex than the vagina. But where are the most sensitive spots and how can you best “treat” them? A step-by-step guide.
1. Choose the correct position
It is essential that both partners have a comfortable position. The most relaxing for both is: lying or sitting on the edge of the bed and kneeling between his legs. In this position you have the most freedom of movement as a woman. Standing – and you kneeling or sitting – is also possible, but that position is more suitable for a quickie. And then of course there is soixante neuf, where you spoil each other simultaneously orally. That can be a heavenly experience, but to master the art of piping, you better go for one-sided oral sex first. This way you can fully focus on the “job”.
2. Take it easy
Take your time for a good blowjob. So don’t see it as a job that needs to be done quickly. In that case you better not do it at all. Undress it, but leave your panties on. This way you show him that you are completely focused on his pleasure.
If his penis is not (completely) stiff yet, play with your hands. Until it is rock hard. Stroking the inside of his legs first can also work wonders. Just like with you, that is a sensitive spot!
3. Play with his balls
Don’t be shy about including his balls in your game. However, the scrotum is a delicate zone that you should always treat with caution. Spit a little to get it wet. Make a bowl from one hand and fold it around the balls. Some men like it when you also touch the area between the scrotum and the anus – the perineum. Do this carefully and ask if he likes it.
While subtly playing his scrotum with one hand, use the other hand (the one you write with) for the trunk of the penis. With this you can pull the foreskin back and forth over the trunk (with circumcised peckers you massage the trunk).
4. No teeth!
Now it is time for your mouth to act. While holding the shaft and still stroking his balls with your other hand, take his glans, the most sensitive part of the penis, in your mouth and frolic with your tongue over it. Your teeth are not invited to this party! Fold your lips over your teeth or just open your mouth a little further and place your tongue on your lower teeth.
If you gently squeeze under the glans, the glans swells, making it bigger and more sensitive. But be aware, if you put a lot of pressure on the glans, this can feel very intense for some men. The acorn of circumcised men is usually less sensitive, they often like it if you stimulate their corona a bit more.
5. The real thing
With the basic technique you take the penis with your whole hand and you only have the head in your mouth. Go up and down with your head so that you also reach the transition from the shaft to the glans with your lips. Your hand moves with the movement. He experiences a warm feeling along the entire penis. In fact, you simulate the penetration, especially when you keep your hand close to your mouth during the movement.
Continue the movement rhythmically, in varying degrees of depth, and check the tempo yourself. Adjust it slightly if he indicates that, for example when he puts his hands on your head. Let your saliva ooze generously to keep everything wet.
The technique mentioned is by far the most popular, but there are countless variations, which you should definitely try out for a change. For example, take his cock in your mouth without putting your lips around it. Slowly rotate your head in circles, turning the penis around your mouth, along your cheeks and tongue. With this technique, some men can delay orgasm for a long time because it is an indirect stimulation. The tongue or lollipop technique may also be worthwhile: lick the balls up over the penis as if it were a lollipop or ice cream. The acorn deserves extra attention.
Although sucking is also called sucking, many men really do not like sucking on their cock. So better leave this out or keep the suction work until after you come to suck his sperm away.
Pain in your jaws can be a bummer. Therefore, relax your jaws as much as possible, and apply pressure to the penis with your hands as much as possible. If you still get pain in your jaws, take the cock out of your mouth, continue subtracting and continue later.
Oh yes, keep breathing through your nose during the entire process!
6. Go deep throat
Deep throat is the well-known technique in which the penis goes as far as possible into the throat. A sensation for the man, often quite a challenge for the woman. But with the right technique and some practice, you certainly don’t have to choke on a deep throat.
First the attitude. One of the difficulties in deep throat is the bend the penis has to make to get all the way down your throat. If you keep your head slightly back, the mouth and throat form a more or less straight line.
Then the technique. It is important to free up space in your throat. Contrary to what you might think, you don’t do that by relaxing your throat. Stick your tongue out and yawn. Take a deep breath and let the penis slide into your mouth / throat as far as you can.
His case far into your mouth, down to your throat, can lead to gagging. If that happens, don’t panic. Pull your head back a little and just move on. You will gradually notice that you can continue to move his member further. A trick that helps you with this is to consciously swallow the gagging when you feel that you are going to gag, so that the reflex disappears.
Practice makes perfect, also applies to this. And you can do that with a toothbrush if necessary! Stick your tongue out as far as you can while brushing your teeth. Then go with your toothbrush as far down your throat as you can until you start to gag. Each time you go a little further without gagging. Never practice with a cucumber, peeled banana, or the like. It could break in your throat and you could choke on it!
Beginners should consider deep throat as a short change from the basic technique. Bringing him deepthroat to a climax and making him cum in your mouth (or throat rather) is work for the (very) advanced.
7. To the peak
It is not only about the climax when it comes to blowing. On the contrary – when you pipe it, think primarily of its pleasure and not of reaching its peak. Otherwise you may be too busy doing a job and he will notice that.
That a heavenly blowjob can result in a ditto orgasm is, euphemistically expressed, of course a nice bonus. A sparkling highlight is the icing on the cake. Or the whipped cream.
It is usually quite noticeable when it reaches its point of no return. His body stiffens and bends towards your mouth. His groans grow louder. The penis gets harder, slightly larger. The scrotum pulls slightly closer to the body. You also often notice that he slightly tightens his upper leg and abdominal muscles. That is the point where you can still stop / prevent the orgasm. If the stimulation continues, the pressure quickly gets bigger / warmer, the muscles in the abdomen / thighs tighten further, the penis gets even bigger, even harder, feels like it is going to explode …
Don’t stop after reaching this crucial point! Continue to pipe intensively – your fingers around his shaft, your mouth over his head – and increase the tempo a bit more – firmer, firmer, with horny moans. It won’t be long now before he comes shivering. When he can no longer keep his hips still and starts making light jerks, the orgasm erupts.
Tip to try out: press his perineum while he comes.
8. Seed, what do you do with it?
Depending on what you may have agreed, he may come in your mouth or, for example, in your face. In the latter case, take the penis out of your mouth just before the climax and continue to pull firmly. Be careful not to get dollops of seed in your eyes. Many men find it horny to get in your mouth and then you swallow the stuff. However, this is not a must! You have to feel comfortable there and to be honest, sperm doesn’t taste like a delicacy. However, it is certainly not unhealthy.
About the question to swallow or no to swallow? we already wrote an extensive article. We also discuss the question to what extent consuming seed poses an HIV risk. This is certainly not a real risk.
7 minutes max?
We already said it: for a good blowjob you take your time. There is no golden rule for the duration of a good pipe session. For example, it depends on whether the oralities are the main menu or “just” foreplay. Of course, the stamina of both parties also plays a role. The strength of the jaw muscles as well. And even with the delight of the fellatio, boredom lurks in the long run. According to the website The Frisky, the work really has to be completed within 10 minutes. Ideal pipe duration: 7 minutes. Although this is only the opinion of a few and is not based on scientific research. We can imagine that the main act, as described at 5, should indeed not last much longer. Especially for practical reasons. However, the pre-phase, in which you build up the tension (see 2, 3 and 4), is just as essential and you can take all the time for it and enjoy it together.
Blowjobs and SOA
Yes, you can get SOA through Blowjob. Chlamydia, herpes, HPV, hepatitis A, B and C, gonorrhea, and syphilis, to be exact. If you want to avoid this per se, you will have to pipe with a condom. Then you can just as well not pipe. However, the STI risks associated with oral sex are small and the conditions mentioned are also relatively easy to treat.
Finally
It’s a sky-high cliché, but talk to each other. Uhm, not so much during sex (although you can give each other some subtle directions) but in general. Indicate what you like, ask what he likes and let him know if you prefer not to do something, or in another way. There are 101 possibilities and nothing is more fun and exciting to discover them together. Nevertheless, we hope that with this pipe guide (what’s in a word) we have already given you some handles to make pipes a party. For both of you.